PSA to NJ men: This is something you should NEVER say to women

I want to be clear that I understand what was said to me was done with good intentions… but it didn’t feel that way as it was happening.

Walking into work this week, I was greeted with “…YOU look tired,” by my colleague.

*Cue the inner rage*

I was not at all tired I had a fine sleep the night before. So how was I to take this in any way that wasn’t “YOU look awful.”

While I understand that what was meant by this was “I know you haven’t been sleeping well, is that still going on? Are you okay?”, that’s not necessarily how it comes across to a woman.

Particularly, the woman currently typing this.

“You look tired” implies that a woman is looking worse than usual, perhaps with bags under the eyes, or possibly, you’re accusing her of having - forgive my language - “resting bitch face.”

For what it’s worth, “resting bitch face” just means the woman is not smiling enough to your liking and that’s not her problem!

Which brings me to another point: men, you can feel free to stop telling random women in public that they should smile.

Pretty much every woman I know has had this happen to them, it’s obnoxious and unnecessary. You don’t know what they’re going through and, weirdly, you feel the need to mandate what their face is doing.

For the record: there’s nothing wrong with a simple “How are you?” It gets your point across without implying that there’s anything wrong with how someone looks.

Men, go forth and take this advice to heart. And hey, while you’re at it… smile!

The post above reflects the thoughts and observations of New Jersey 101.5's Kylie Moore. Any opinions expressed are Kylie's own. You can follow Kylie on Instagram.
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