More couples are sleeping in separate beds, even different bedrooms — Forever 39 Podcast
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While it would be nice to drift off into La La Land while your husband holds you in his arms, for most women, and men, this is simply not a reality. Sleep experts agree that the majority of us need 8 hours of sleep a night, but many couples just can't achieve that while sleeping in the same bed due to different sleeping patterns. And let's face it, sleep is important!
Are you a light sleeper who struggles to fall asleep at night due to your husband's snoring? Or maybe you're the problem, with your constant shifting and stealing of covers. Regardless of who's the culprit, conflicting sleeping patterns is something many couples struggle with, and for some it's so bad they've taken to sleeping in separate beds or even separate bedrooms.
So just how many couples sleep alone? Information from a 2005 survey by the National Sleep Foundation finds that 25 percent of couples are sleeping in separate beds. And for some couples even that's not enough distance. The survey also finds that 10 percent of couples sleep in separate bedrooms.
And if you think your snoring isn't disruptive to your partner or your relationship, think again. The study finds that 55 percent of those surveyed report having problems in their relationships due to their or their partner's sleeping habits. That's up from 27 percent in 1999. And for some couples, these issues are even impacting their sex life.
But is this sleeping arrangement healthy for the relationship? That's just part of what Annette and Megan talk about in the latest Forever 39 podcast — listen below.
Some relationship experts do argue that sleeping alone when living with a significant other can impact a couple's closeness since separate beds and bedrooms reduces the opportunity for spontaneous sex and cuddling. Ultimately though, it's up to the couple to decide what works best for them especially since a good night's rest usually means a more attentive partner.
Are you struggling now with your sleeping arrangement due to your partner's sleeping patterns? Would you consider separate beds or bedrooms in an effort to get some much needed rest?
— Annette and Megan, Forever 39
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