How to address the ‘When are you having kids?’ question — Forever 39 Podcast
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It’s a question all married couples are bound to get, “When are you having kids?” Nosy family members and friends simply can’t stop themselves from asking it, even when the couple they’re asking has expressed no interest in having children.
And while plenty of married couples have kids, there are plenty of childless marriages as well. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, more married couples in 1963 had kids than married couples in 2014. And married or not, fewer women are having kids. The latest statistics from the U.S. Census Bureau’s Current Population Survey shows that 47.6 percent of unmarried women between ages 40 to 44 are childless.
For couples that want children, many are choosing to delay the arrival of them until they have their careers established and some money in the bank. According to The National Center for Health Statistics, birth rates declined for women in their 20s in 2015, but increased between 2014 and 2015 for women in their 30s and early 40s.
With so many couples and single people choosing to remain kid-free, or delay starting a family, it’s somewhat shocking that people still want to know when the kids are coming. Perhaps they are just making conversation, but the question can be a tough one to answer for couples that aren’t quite sure yet where they stand on the issue.
If you’re currently being bombarded by those wanting to know, check out some tips here on how you can respond.
If you’ve got a clever way of responding to questions about your kid timeline, let us know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
— Annette and Megan, Forever 39